Change is Hard; Poor Charlie Sheen

Charlie SheenI don’t usually write about celebrities or current events per se, but as I watched poor Charlie Sheen struggle with his interview with Matt Lauer, I struggled with him. Why? I know change is hard. I see it in myself and my clients who come to me for help.

What Charlie did was to take a monumental step forward in his own healing. His history of anger and erratic behavior along with alcohol and drug abuse is well documented in the tabloids and TV magazines. His lifestyle and inability to change it led to his latest admission that it cost him millions of dollars and more importantly, his health.

I, like Charlie and most of us have had to face things that were extremely difficult. I tried and tried to quit smoking for years and always went back to it. For many years I was angry that I couldn’t do it but finally found a program that helped me quit and stay quit. Smoking cost me my health too like Charlie. I have only 70% of my lung capacity as a result.

It begs the question of why would I (we) do that to ourselves? Most of us certainly don’t want to harm ourselves on purpose, but we continue do things that might anyway. Our fear of change, fear of losing friends, fear of looking like a failure. Whatever the fear is, it paralyzes us from changing from what we know, even when what we know it is harmful or negative. Weird, huh?

So I contemplated Charlie Sheen’s statements and listened to the obvious fear in his voice and thought good for you Charlie. He really doesn’t know yet how much his life will change for the better. I wish him well and look forward to different, more positive bits about him in the tabloids.

I have extraordinary results treating fear-based beliefs in a safe manner with John F. Barnes myofascial release (JFB-MFR). Take a step like Charlie did and call me to set an appointment or I can will be happy refer you to a JFB-MFR trained therapist near you if you’re not in the Sacramento area.

 

 

 

 

 

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We’ve Been Lied To About Feelings

feelings off switch picJohn Barnes, PT trained myofascial release therapists such as myself hear him say again and again of how we are taught from a young age not to feel. This is particularly true in America where it is seen as a weakness.

We are taught by almost every aspect of society to hide our feelings from others. We stifle tears and turn away so no one can see our face. We answer “I’m fine” when we’re really not.

I am amazed at how much this behavior is perpetuated by social media, TV, movies, self-help books and the like. We are told to stuff our feelings and certainly never to cry in public. This is seen as being weak or unstable which is a total lie. If anything, it is a sign of strength and balance.

God gave us our emotions and intuition as a guide to do what is right. Not only for others, but for our own self too. Let your feelings surface instead of holding them inside. And please allow others to let their feelings out as well. Don’t say to them ‘don’t cry, ‘it’s alright’ or ‘it’s okay’. Even touching them or handing them a tissue will stop emotions in their tracks, maybe, never to return. Allow their moment to finish and let them to come to you or to ask for what they need.

I have seen amazing results on my treatment table when clients have that ‘ah-ha’ moment or gradually let go of their old beliefs. You will be empowered with your new freedom from the bondage of keeping your emotions inside. Your body will feel less stressed and a sense of well-being will prevail in all you do.

If you need help, I provide John Barnes myofascial release, which is a safe, gentle hands-on therapy to help you release your stress and get in touch with those stuck feelings that may be preventing you from true healing from old wounds.

Clearing the Clutter

Cluttered desk; Albert EinsteinFunny how Albert Einstein’s mind came up with this question.  I often have to stop and clear my mind to find what I’m trying to remember or solve.

Just the other day as I was looking for a particular replacement part for a window shade I had to dig through piles of stuff on the shelf in the garage. “I know it’s here”, I said to myself. I just ordered and received it a couple of months ago. I felt frustrated about wasting time. I started chastising myself for not putting it in a proper place so it would be easy to find when I needed it, when it occurred to me that I had way too much clutter.

Stepping back and looking at the pile on the shelf, I was able to see what a mixed up mess of stuff was there. Screws, nails, rubber and metal washers, chain link fence ties, brackets, a nylon rope splicer (really?), plumber’s tape, etc. Well, you get the idea, too much clutter to find anything easily.

Clutter also fills our minds so it’s hard to find things there as well. How many times have you forgotten where you put something or forgotten to do something? So why do we take time to clean up and organize the physical clutter in our lives but not the mental clutter?

When I get treated with John Barnes myofascial release, I sometimes find my mind flooded with so many thoughts at the same time it’s stunning how that’s even possible. So much, so fast, so overwhelming. Well, not really overwhelming, more like amazing. You see, I have learned to clean the mental clutter with prayer and intuitive trust. That is, I trust that the most important things will surface and be there when I need them. Conversely, if something trivial or unimportant comes up, I toss it away without a second thought.

To clarify, don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of overthinking things. Trust you intuition to be right and true in all things. If you mull over something too long, it grows and becomes paramount in your mind which makes it harder to ‘find’ other important things. So clear the clutter.

Now, where’s my phone? I can’t find my phone!…

 

10 Ways to Ease Stress; part 2

stock-footage-dolly-shot-of-a-motivational-sign-saying-stress-free-zone-with-a-warm-tropical-beach-backgroundThe first part of easing stress for the most part was about ‘doing’ things differently. No small task when it comes to changing habits or trying to establish new ones. Part two is more about the ‘inner’ or mental aspect of stress relief. These last six items may be more difficult than the first five as they require introspection, which most of us don’t like to do. Hang in there folks, it will be worth it in the long run. If you need help, I provide a safe, non-judgmental place for you to learn how to release stress using John Barnes myofascial release. It is a gentle, non-forceful form of bodywork that allows for true healing. Call me at 916-363-7173 for appointments.

6) Take responsibility. Think of the ‘Serenity Prayer’. Ease your stress by asking what you can change and what you cannot. If you can make a difference in an outcome, take action. If you cannot, then put it out of your mind. Let others be responsible for their own actions, don’t try to ‘fix it’.

7) Reduce stressors. Most of us find that life is filled with too many demands and too little time. And, most of us choose what’s most important to us. You have the power to decide what and when you have time to do something. So, reprioritize weekly and don’t forget to take time out for yourself.

8) Examine your values and live by them. Be true to your ‘self’. Remember, your intuition is never wrong. The more your actions reflect your true beliefs, the better you will feel, no matter how busy your life.

9) Set realistic goals. Set too high, goals become daunting and add stress to your body. A modest, reachable goal is healthy and positive. Remember too, that goals are different from expectations. Most often expectations are out of your control are met with disappointment and resentment.

10) Self talk. Pat yourself on the back ’cause nobody else will. It’s important to remind yourself when you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed that you’re doing the best you can. You can’t give more than 100% (no matter what your coach said).

Practice, practice, practice. Do not give up on trying ways to relieve your stress. Even if you only put one or two of these into practice, you will reduce your stress and feel better. So, welcome to the ‘Stress-free’ zone.

10 Way to Ease Stress; part one

stock-footage-dolly-shot-of-a-motivational-sign-saying-stress-free-zone-with-a-warm-tropical-beach-backgroundWe all have stress. It’s a part of modern life so here are some tips on how to help reduce the affects of stress on your body. I have divided this into two parts so it’s not so overwhelming. As you read this, take what may apply to your own situation as not every suggestion will be meaningful to you. The important thing is to become aware or your stress and if needed, this will give you something to draw on for help. Of course, my specialty, John Barnes myofascial release can significantly help reduce your stress in as little as an hour a week so if you’re in the Sacramento metro area, give me call at 916-363-7173.

1) Eat and drink sensibly. Take time to prepare foods instead of eating ‘fast food’. Try not to binge or habitually eat snack foods. Choose wisely and eat or drink in moderation. Drinking alcohol and overeating may seem to reduce stress, but it actually adds to it.

2) Assert yourself. You do not have to meet others’ expectations or demands. And remember, they don’t have to meet yours either. It’s okay to say “No.” If you are being assertive, not angry, it allows you to stand up for your rights and beliefs while respecting those of others. 

3) Stop smoking. Nicotine acts as a stimulant and brings on more stress symptoms. Give yourself the gift of dropping this unhealthy habit. There are many free stop smoking programs available if you need help and support. 

4) Exercise regularly. Choose non-competitive exercise and set reasonable goals. Aerobic exercise has been shown to release endorphins which are natural substances that help you feel better and maintain a positive attitude. If you need help getting started, contact a personal trainer for advice.

5) Practice relaxation techniques. Relax every day. Yep, take time for your ‘self’. Choose from a variety of different techniques such as deep breathing, Bible reading, listening to guided imagery or a soothing piece of music. Try combining opposites; a time for deep relaxation and a time for aerobic exercise is a sure way to protect your body from the effects of stress.

10 Things Your Doctor Won’t Tell You

As an alternative medicine practitioner, specifically a myofascial release therapist, I see many clients who are disillusioned with their doctors and/or the medical system in general as it is now. Here are some thoughts of mine born from those client complaints. I hope they help you or someone you know.

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1) Yes, you can fire your doctor. You can change doctors any time you wish and you don’t even have to give them a reason. Even if you just don’t like yours, or just don’t ‘feel’ comfortable with them, by all means, change.

2) Your pharmacist probably knows more about your prescribed medicine than your doctor does. Most docs know what the meds are supposed to treat, but not how they may react with other meds you are taking or the best time of day to take them.

3) You don’t have to take a prescribed medicine. This is true! Many people have adverse side effects or reactions to medicines, so go back to your doctor immediately and talk about other alternatives. But, before you do, talk to your pharmacist (see number 2 above).

4) Your doctor will tell you to lose weight but not how to lose that extra weight. They have good intentions, but docs have little knowledge on how to do it, so you will have to do your homework and own research on various ways to lose weight.

5) ‘You need to exercise’ says your doctor. How many of you have heard that but have not been given any suggestions of what type of exercise or how to start? No? Then talk to your friends and see what they are doing or get the name of their personal trainer so you can get a program built specifically for you.

6) Most doctors don’t offer, but you can get a second opinion if you are unsure of or don’t agree with what your doctor is diagnosing.

7) Similarly, you can ask your doctor for a referral to a specialist if you want a more definitive opinion. Most primary care docs don’t offer because they are the ‘gatekeepers’ and are told to keep costs down, but don’t let that stop you from getting what you need.

8) Don’t waste your appointment time asking your doctor for advice on what your insurance covers. They won’t tell you, and for good reason, they don’t know, so ask the office insurance specialist not the doctor.

9) Here’s a big one in my book. Your doctor won’t tell you that there are non-medical alternative medicine treatment options available to you. In fairness, they probably don’t know about them. If they do, most doctors are skeptical of them. So, this is for your own awareness. Seek out what alternative therapies there are for you to try.

10) Most doctors will never say to you that they don’t know what is wrong with you so they will use words like, it ‘may’ be this or ‘we’ll try this’, or ‘this is going around’, you get the idea.

So, above all, take your power back from your doctor. After all, it is your body and your health and wellbeing that are at stake. And don’t be afraid to ask others you may know for advice and guidance. After all, we all have valuable insights and experiences to share.

New Website

Healing doesn't happen in isolation picCarol and I are excited to announce the birth of our new website. (gotcha. huh?) Seriously, we’re back online with our new website and invite you to take a few minutes to take a look at http://rosemontpainrelieftherapy.com.

We have created a whole new site with more information, a gift certificate store and a new digital ‘Client Information’ page to save time and effort for those making their first appointment with us.

At our site you can opt to join our email list (which is NEVER shared) for occasional specials and for our monthly newsletter. And, best of all, you can now visit our site with your mobile devices and navigate with ease.

We also have lots of new posts daily on our Facebook page which you can access from our website along with our Twitter and Goggle + pages. Coming soon we will be adding Pinterest and YouTube.

So, whether you live in Sacramento, Rancho Cordova, Folsom, El Dorado Hills or Fair Oaks, we are convenient and close to you in our Rosemont location.

Be sure to check our website frequently for access to all of our posts on social media ’cause ya don’t want to miss a thing!