Change is Hard; Poor Charlie Sheen

Charlie SheenI don’t usually write about celebrities or current events per se, but as I watched poor Charlie Sheen struggle with his interview with Matt Lauer, I struggled with him. Why? I know change is hard. I see it in myself and my clients who come to me for help.

What Charlie did was to take a monumental step forward in his own healing. His history of anger and erratic behavior along with alcohol and drug abuse is well documented in the tabloids and TV magazines. His lifestyle and inability to change it led to his latest admission that it cost him millions of dollars and more importantly, his health.

I, like Charlie and most of us have had to face things that were extremely difficult. I tried and tried to quit smoking for years and always went back to it. For many years I was angry that I couldn’t do it but finally found a program that helped me quit and stay quit. Smoking cost me my health too like Charlie. I have only 70% of my lung capacity as a result.

It begs the question of why would I (we) do that to ourselves? Most of us certainly don’t want to harm ourselves on purpose, but we continue do things that might anyway. Our fear of change, fear of losing friends, fear of looking like a failure. Whatever the fear is, it paralyzes us from changing from what we know, even when what we know it is harmful or negative. Weird, huh?

So I contemplated Charlie Sheen’s statements and listened to the obvious fear in his voice and thought good for you Charlie. He really doesn’t know yet how much his life will change for the better. I wish him well and look forward to different, more positive bits about him in the tabloids.

I have extraordinary results treating fear-based beliefs in a safe manner with John F. Barnes myofascial release (JFB-MFR). Take a step like Charlie did and call me to set an appointment or I can will be happy refer you to a JFB-MFR trained therapist near you if you’re not in the Sacramento area.

 

 

 

 

 

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Clearing the Clutter

Cluttered desk; Albert EinsteinFunny how Albert Einstein’s mind came up with this question.  I often have to stop and clear my mind to find what I’m trying to remember or solve.

Just the other day as I was looking for a particular replacement part for a window shade I had to dig through piles of stuff on the shelf in the garage. “I know it’s here”, I said to myself. I just ordered and received it a couple of months ago. I felt frustrated about wasting time. I started chastising myself for not putting it in a proper place so it would be easy to find when I needed it, when it occurred to me that I had way too much clutter.

Stepping back and looking at the pile on the shelf, I was able to see what a mixed up mess of stuff was there. Screws, nails, rubber and metal washers, chain link fence ties, brackets, a nylon rope splicer (really?), plumber’s tape, etc. Well, you get the idea, too much clutter to find anything easily.

Clutter also fills our minds so it’s hard to find things there as well. How many times have you forgotten where you put something or forgotten to do something? So why do we take time to clean up and organize the physical clutter in our lives but not the mental clutter?

When I get treated with John Barnes myofascial release, I sometimes find my mind flooded with so many thoughts at the same time it’s stunning how that’s even possible. So much, so fast, so overwhelming. Well, not really overwhelming, more like amazing. You see, I have learned to clean the mental clutter with prayer and intuitive trust. That is, I trust that the most important things will surface and be there when I need them. Conversely, if something trivial or unimportant comes up, I toss it away without a second thought.

To clarify, don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of overthinking things. Trust you intuition to be right and true in all things. If you mull over something too long, it grows and becomes paramount in your mind which makes it harder to ‘find’ other important things. So clear the clutter.

Now, where’s my phone? I can’t find my phone!…

 

10 Way to Ease Stress; part one

stock-footage-dolly-shot-of-a-motivational-sign-saying-stress-free-zone-with-a-warm-tropical-beach-backgroundWe all have stress. It’s a part of modern life so here are some tips on how to help reduce the affects of stress on your body. I have divided this into two parts so it’s not so overwhelming. As you read this, take what may apply to your own situation as not every suggestion will be meaningful to you. The important thing is to become aware or your stress and if needed, this will give you something to draw on for help. Of course, my specialty, John Barnes myofascial release can significantly help reduce your stress in as little as an hour a week so if you’re in the Sacramento metro area, give me call at 916-363-7173.

1) Eat and drink sensibly. Take time to prepare foods instead of eating ‘fast food’. Try not to binge or habitually eat snack foods. Choose wisely and eat or drink in moderation. Drinking alcohol and overeating may seem to reduce stress, but it actually adds to it.

2) Assert yourself. You do not have to meet others’ expectations or demands. And remember, they don’t have to meet yours either. It’s okay to say “No.” If you are being assertive, not angry, it allows you to stand up for your rights and beliefs while respecting those of others. 

3) Stop smoking. Nicotine acts as a stimulant and brings on more stress symptoms. Give yourself the gift of dropping this unhealthy habit. There are many free stop smoking programs available if you need help and support. 

4) Exercise regularly. Choose non-competitive exercise and set reasonable goals. Aerobic exercise has been shown to release endorphins which are natural substances that help you feel better and maintain a positive attitude. If you need help getting started, contact a personal trainer for advice.

5) Practice relaxation techniques. Relax every day. Yep, take time for your ‘self’. Choose from a variety of different techniques such as deep breathing, Bible reading, listening to guided imagery or a soothing piece of music. Try combining opposites; a time for deep relaxation and a time for aerobic exercise is a sure way to protect your body from the effects of stress.

10 Things Your Doctor Won’t Tell You

As an alternative medicine practitioner, specifically a myofascial release therapist, I see many clients who are disillusioned with their doctors and/or the medical system in general as it is now. Here are some thoughts of mine born from those client complaints. I hope they help you or someone you know.

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1) Yes, you can fire your doctor. You can change doctors any time you wish and you don’t even have to give them a reason. Even if you just don’t like yours, or just don’t ‘feel’ comfortable with them, by all means, change.

2) Your pharmacist probably knows more about your prescribed medicine than your doctor does. Most docs know what the meds are supposed to treat, but not how they may react with other meds you are taking or the best time of day to take them.

3) You don’t have to take a prescribed medicine. This is true! Many people have adverse side effects or reactions to medicines, so go back to your doctor immediately and talk about other alternatives. But, before you do, talk to your pharmacist (see number 2 above).

4) Your doctor will tell you to lose weight but not how to lose that extra weight. They have good intentions, but docs have little knowledge on how to do it, so you will have to do your homework and own research on various ways to lose weight.

5) ‘You need to exercise’ says your doctor. How many of you have heard that but have not been given any suggestions of what type of exercise or how to start? No? Then talk to your friends and see what they are doing or get the name of their personal trainer so you can get a program built specifically for you.

6) Most doctors don’t offer, but you can get a second opinion if you are unsure of or don’t agree with what your doctor is diagnosing.

7) Similarly, you can ask your doctor for a referral to a specialist if you want a more definitive opinion. Most primary care docs don’t offer because they are the ‘gatekeepers’ and are told to keep costs down, but don’t let that stop you from getting what you need.

8) Don’t waste your appointment time asking your doctor for advice on what your insurance covers. They won’t tell you, and for good reason, they don’t know, so ask the office insurance specialist not the doctor.

9) Here’s a big one in my book. Your doctor won’t tell you that there are non-medical alternative medicine treatment options available to you. In fairness, they probably don’t know about them. If they do, most doctors are skeptical of them. So, this is for your own awareness. Seek out what alternative therapies there are for you to try.

10) Most doctors will never say to you that they don’t know what is wrong with you so they will use words like, it ‘may’ be this or ‘we’ll try this’, or ‘this is going around’, you get the idea.

So, above all, take your power back from your doctor. After all, it is your body and your health and wellbeing that are at stake. And don’t be afraid to ask others you may know for advice and guidance. After all, we all have valuable insights and experiences to share.

Letting Go – part 2

How do we change the way we react someone or to something?

I asked the question last week “what is letting go and is it really possible”.

The complexities of letting go are like a 3-dimensional web of energy reaching in and out of our own individual being.  In other words, our interaction with others and our inner self is affected when we hold on to something.

That “something” could be a personality conflict with another, a lost job opportunity, a ‘wrong’ decision of years past, an ongoing disagreement, bereavement, making a mistake, beating yourself up, yelling, fear of failure and the list goes on…

Have you ever felt tightness in your chest, had a swirling stomach, headaches, and shortness of breath?  These symptoms are not coincidences; they are your body talking to you.  If we have the ability to let go, these reactions will not develop into holding patterns and will not lead to dis-ease and illness.

When we feel our body and really listen to what our body is telling us, we can make different decisions.  If we have expectations of the way something will be, then if it isn’t, we feel bad.  So, it becomes necessary to stay in the moment, not to judge or expect things to be a certain way.  Sometimes a judgment is healthy, so listen to your intuition, your inner voice…it is NEVER wrong!

Many of us have stopped listening to our intuition.  Not to rely on our subconscious for guidance in our daily lives.  We’ve been taught, for example, not to cry in front of others.  So, when we want, or need to show our grief by crying, the process is stopped and is not completed.  We now have this conflict within us, under the surface, always needing to let go.

These unresolved, under the surface conflicts are triggered by everyday occurrences and then we don’t know what or why we are feeling the way we do.  All we know is that we don’t feel good.

As a John F. Barnes, P.T. trained myofascial release specialist, I help in a safe manner to access the subconscious holding patterns that keep us from healing the physical and emotional pain we are having.

The John F. Barnes, P.T. approach to myofascial release is hands-on bodywork and is the most comprehensive mind/body therapy ever developed.  It allows for authentic healing using gentle sustained pressure allowing the body to let go of restrictions when it’s ready, without force or protocol.

Letting go is very much a process and life goes on with new challenges to be addressed, so, be easy on your self as you learn how to let go.  It is difficult, but definitely worth it.

Next week I will talk about how faith plays a big part in letting go.

Why Suffer?

It is an interesting question?  A colleague of mine gave an example of her picking up groceries into both arms, struggling to get to the door and when arriving at her door, had no free hand to open it.  She wondered “why struggle? What can I do to lighten the load and complete this same task with less struggle.”

Indeed, why do we struggle in our daily lives to accomplish the simplest tasks?  Of course, this space doesn’t allow for an in-depth answer or discussion, but the list really is almost endless and is as unique as each of our own life experiences.  Full of false realities, full of walls that hold us back from our own healing.

What would happen if we actually noticed these things as we did them, noticed how we felt. You know… that feeling of anger, frustration that we all feel at doing the same thing over and over, usually accompanied by some self-deprecating phrase.

Over time we start to take in these negative thoughts and feelings resulting in dis-ease in our bodies.  Symptoms of discomfort such as headaches, muscle and nerve pain, etc.  Again, even the simplest of things, seemingly unimportant or insignificant can make a huge difference of how you feel in the long-term.

Ask yourself what you would feel like if you changed.  My friend asked “What can I do to ease the pattern of struggle?”  In other words, “how’s that workin’ for ya”?  A word of caution, don’t beat yourself up if you can’t change as fast as you want.  These patterns probably have taken many years to evolve.

So why suffer and struggle when you can have the pain-free, stress free life you want and deserve.  You don’t know how good you can really feel.  If we start becoming more aware, suddenly we have so many more choices in our own healthcare and wellbeing.

If you are feeling stuck in the same old patterns and feeling unable to change, the John F. Barnes approach to myofascial release (JFB-MFR) may be just what you need.  I can safely help you feel better and allow for change using this most comprehensive and effective mind/body therapy ever developed.

If you are not in the Sacramento area and need a referral to a therapist in your area, I can help with that as well.

Be good to you.