How do we change the way we react someone or to something?
I asked the question last week “what is letting go and is it really possible”.
The complexities of letting go are like a 3-dimensional web of energy reaching in and out of our own individual being. In other words, our interaction with others and our inner self is affected when we hold on to something.
That “something” could be a personality conflict with another, a lost job opportunity, a ‘wrong’ decision of years past, an ongoing disagreement, bereavement, making a mistake, beating yourself up, yelling, fear of failure and the list goes on…
Have you ever felt tightness in your chest, had a swirling stomach, headaches, and shortness of breath? These symptoms are not coincidences; they are your body talking to you. If we have the ability to let go, these reactions will not develop into holding patterns and will not lead to dis-ease and illness.
When we feel our body and really listen to what our body is telling us, we can make different decisions. If we have expectations of the way something will be, then if it isn’t, we feel bad. So, it becomes necessary to stay in the moment, not to judge or expect things to be a certain way. Sometimes a judgment is healthy, so listen to your intuition, your inner voice…it is NEVER wrong!
Many of us have stopped listening to our intuition. Not to rely on our subconscious for guidance in our daily lives. We’ve been taught, for example, not to cry in front of others. So, when we want, or need to show our grief by crying, the process is stopped and is not completed. We now have this conflict within us, under the surface, always needing to let go.
These unresolved, under the surface conflicts are triggered by everyday occurrences and then we don’t know what or why we are feeling the way we do. All we know is that we don’t feel good.
As a John F. Barnes, P.T. trained myofascial release specialist, I help in a safe manner to access the subconscious holding patterns that keep us from healing the physical and emotional pain we are having.
The John F. Barnes, P.T. approach to myofascial release is hands-on bodywork and is the most comprehensive mind/body therapy ever developed. It allows for authentic healing using gentle sustained pressure allowing the body to let go of restrictions when it’s ready, without force or protocol.
Letting go is very much a process and life goes on with new challenges to be addressed, so, be easy on your self as you learn how to let go. It is difficult, but definitely worth it.
Next week I will talk about how faith plays a big part in letting go.