Inner Power

Inner PowerMost of us have heard the phrase ‘take your power back’ but alas, most of us don’t really know what that means, or if you do, don’t know where to start.

Start with listening to your intuition as it is never wrong! I must tell you that it is not something that you can just turn on or off. Power through our intuition is a state of being that for most of us must be learned. Now, to clarify, I am not talking about pushing your ideas or will onto someone like a bully. I’m saying, be assertive in stating your needs.

I have over the years, I missed out on things because I didn’t state what I was feeling or what I needed. But, I have since learned that even the simple act of saying what you need is powerful. Even if you don’t get what you asked for. I have had a whole lot more regrets from not saying anything than I have from asking and not getting.

Add your inner power to everyday life and you will feel better, work better and treat others better. As I said, it is a state of being and if you truly follow your intuitive guide, you will exude confidence and an inner power that people will see, feel, and respect.

John Barnes MFR is the only therapy that treats the whole person including the mind/body and spirit. We can help you find and take your power back in a safe, non-forceful manner allowing for true healing.

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We’ve Been Lied To About Feelings

feelings off switch picJohn Barnes, PT trained myofascial release therapists such as myself hear him say again and again of how we are taught from a young age not to feel. This is particularly true in America where it is seen as a weakness.

We are taught by almost every aspect of society to hide our feelings from others. We stifle tears and turn away so no one can see our face. We answer “I’m fine” when we’re really not.

I am amazed at how much this behavior is perpetuated by social media, TV, movies, self-help books and the like. We are told to stuff our feelings and certainly never to cry in public. This is seen as being weak or unstable which is a total lie. If anything, it is a sign of strength and balance.

God gave us our emotions and intuition as a guide to do what is right. Not only for others, but for our own self too. Let your feelings surface instead of holding them inside. And please allow others to let their feelings out as well. Don’t say to them ‘don’t cry, ‘it’s alright’ or ‘it’s okay’. Even touching them or handing them a tissue will stop emotions in their tracks, maybe, never to return. Allow their moment to finish and let them to come to you or to ask for what they need.

I have seen amazing results on my treatment table when clients have that ‘ah-ha’ moment or gradually let go of their old beliefs. You will be empowered with your new freedom from the bondage of keeping your emotions inside. Your body will feel less stressed and a sense of well-being will prevail in all you do.

If you need help, I provide John Barnes myofascial release, which is a safe, gentle hands-on therapy to help you release your stress and get in touch with those stuck feelings that may be preventing you from true healing from old wounds.

10 Way to Ease Stress; part one

stock-footage-dolly-shot-of-a-motivational-sign-saying-stress-free-zone-with-a-warm-tropical-beach-backgroundWe all have stress. It’s a part of modern life so here are some tips on how to help reduce the affects of stress on your body. I have divided this into two parts so it’s not so overwhelming. As you read this, take what may apply to your own situation as not every suggestion will be meaningful to you. The important thing is to become aware or your stress and if needed, this will give you something to draw on for help. Of course, my specialty, John Barnes myofascial release can significantly help reduce your stress in as little as an hour a week so if you’re in the Sacramento metro area, give me call at 916-363-7173.

1) Eat and drink sensibly. Take time to prepare foods instead of eating ‘fast food’. Try not to binge or habitually eat snack foods. Choose wisely and eat or drink in moderation. Drinking alcohol and overeating may seem to reduce stress, but it actually adds to it.

2) Assert yourself. You do not have to meet others’ expectations or demands. And remember, they don’t have to meet yours either. It’s okay to say “No.” If you are being assertive, not angry, it allows you to stand up for your rights and beliefs while respecting those of others. 

3) Stop smoking. Nicotine acts as a stimulant and brings on more stress symptoms. Give yourself the gift of dropping this unhealthy habit. There are many free stop smoking programs available if you need help and support. 

4) Exercise regularly. Choose non-competitive exercise and set reasonable goals. Aerobic exercise has been shown to release endorphins which are natural substances that help you feel better and maintain a positive attitude. If you need help getting started, contact a personal trainer for advice.

5) Practice relaxation techniques. Relax every day. Yep, take time for your ‘self’. Choose from a variety of different techniques such as deep breathing, Bible reading, listening to guided imagery or a soothing piece of music. Try combining opposites; a time for deep relaxation and a time for aerobic exercise is a sure way to protect your body from the effects of stress.

10 Things Your Doctor Won’t Tell You

As an alternative medicine practitioner, specifically a myofascial release therapist, I see many clients who are disillusioned with their doctors and/or the medical system in general as it is now. Here are some thoughts of mine born from those client complaints. I hope they help you or someone you know.

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1) Yes, you can fire your doctor. You can change doctors any time you wish and you don’t even have to give them a reason. Even if you just don’t like yours, or just don’t ‘feel’ comfortable with them, by all means, change.

2) Your pharmacist probably knows more about your prescribed medicine than your doctor does. Most docs know what the meds are supposed to treat, but not how they may react with other meds you are taking or the best time of day to take them.

3) You don’t have to take a prescribed medicine. This is true! Many people have adverse side effects or reactions to medicines, so go back to your doctor immediately and talk about other alternatives. But, before you do, talk to your pharmacist (see number 2 above).

4) Your doctor will tell you to lose weight but not how to lose that extra weight. They have good intentions, but docs have little knowledge on how to do it, so you will have to do your homework and own research on various ways to lose weight.

5) ‘You need to exercise’ says your doctor. How many of you have heard that but have not been given any suggestions of what type of exercise or how to start? No? Then talk to your friends and see what they are doing or get the name of their personal trainer so you can get a program built specifically for you.

6) Most doctors don’t offer, but you can get a second opinion if you are unsure of or don’t agree with what your doctor is diagnosing.

7) Similarly, you can ask your doctor for a referral to a specialist if you want a more definitive opinion. Most primary care docs don’t offer because they are the ‘gatekeepers’ and are told to keep costs down, but don’t let that stop you from getting what you need.

8) Don’t waste your appointment time asking your doctor for advice on what your insurance covers. They won’t tell you, and for good reason, they don’t know, so ask the office insurance specialist not the doctor.

9) Here’s a big one in my book. Your doctor won’t tell you that there are non-medical alternative medicine treatment options available to you. In fairness, they probably don’t know about them. If they do, most doctors are skeptical of them. So, this is for your own awareness. Seek out what alternative therapies there are for you to try.

10) Most doctors will never say to you that they don’t know what is wrong with you so they will use words like, it ‘may’ be this or ‘we’ll try this’, or ‘this is going around’, you get the idea.

So, above all, take your power back from your doctor. After all, it is your body and your health and wellbeing that are at stake. And don’t be afraid to ask others you may know for advice and guidance. After all, we all have valuable insights and experiences to share.

Letting Go – part 2

How do we change the way we react someone or to something?

I asked the question last week “what is letting go and is it really possible”.

The complexities of letting go are like a 3-dimensional web of energy reaching in and out of our own individual being.  In other words, our interaction with others and our inner self is affected when we hold on to something.

That “something” could be a personality conflict with another, a lost job opportunity, a ‘wrong’ decision of years past, an ongoing disagreement, bereavement, making a mistake, beating yourself up, yelling, fear of failure and the list goes on…

Have you ever felt tightness in your chest, had a swirling stomach, headaches, and shortness of breath?  These symptoms are not coincidences; they are your body talking to you.  If we have the ability to let go, these reactions will not develop into holding patterns and will not lead to dis-ease and illness.

When we feel our body and really listen to what our body is telling us, we can make different decisions.  If we have expectations of the way something will be, then if it isn’t, we feel bad.  So, it becomes necessary to stay in the moment, not to judge or expect things to be a certain way.  Sometimes a judgment is healthy, so listen to your intuition, your inner voice…it is NEVER wrong!

Many of us have stopped listening to our intuition.  Not to rely on our subconscious for guidance in our daily lives.  We’ve been taught, for example, not to cry in front of others.  So, when we want, or need to show our grief by crying, the process is stopped and is not completed.  We now have this conflict within us, under the surface, always needing to let go.

These unresolved, under the surface conflicts are triggered by everyday occurrences and then we don’t know what or why we are feeling the way we do.  All we know is that we don’t feel good.

As a John F. Barnes, P.T. trained myofascial release specialist, I help in a safe manner to access the subconscious holding patterns that keep us from healing the physical and emotional pain we are having.

The John F. Barnes, P.T. approach to myofascial release is hands-on bodywork and is the most comprehensive mind/body therapy ever developed.  It allows for authentic healing using gentle sustained pressure allowing the body to let go of restrictions when it’s ready, without force or protocol.

Letting go is very much a process and life goes on with new challenges to be addressed, so, be easy on your self as you learn how to let go.  It is difficult, but definitely worth it.

Next week I will talk about how faith plays a big part in letting go.