Change is Hard; Poor Charlie Sheen

Charlie SheenI don’t usually write about celebrities or current events per se, but as I watched poor Charlie Sheen struggle with his interview with Matt Lauer, I struggled with him. Why? I know change is hard. I see it in myself and my clients who come to me for help.

What Charlie did was to take a monumental step forward in his own healing. His history of anger and erratic behavior along with alcohol and drug abuse is well documented in the tabloids and TV magazines. His lifestyle and inability to change it led to his latest admission that it cost him millions of dollars and more importantly, his health.

I, like Charlie and most of us have had to face things that were extremely difficult. I tried and tried to quit smoking for years and always went back to it. For many years I was angry that I couldn’t do it but finally found a program that helped me quit and stay quit. Smoking cost me my health too like Charlie. I have only 70% of my lung capacity as a result.

It begs the question of why would I (we) do that to ourselves? Most of us certainly don’t want to harm ourselves on purpose, but we continue do things that might anyway. Our fear of change, fear of losing friends, fear of looking like a failure. Whatever the fear is, it paralyzes us from changing from what we know, even when what we know it is harmful or negative. Weird, huh?

So I contemplated Charlie Sheen’s statements and listened to the obvious fear in his voice and thought good for you Charlie. He really doesn’t know yet how much his life will change for the better. I wish him well and look forward to different, more positive bits about him in the tabloids.

I have extraordinary results treating fear-based beliefs in a safe manner with John F. Barnes myofascial release (JFB-MFR). Take a step like Charlie did and call me to set an appointment or I can will be happy refer you to a JFB-MFR trained therapist near you if you’re not in the Sacramento area.

 

 

 

 

 

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We’ve Been Lied To About Feelings

feelings off switch picJohn Barnes, PT trained myofascial release therapists such as myself hear him say again and again of how we are taught from a young age not to feel. This is particularly true in America where it is seen as a weakness.

We are taught by almost every aspect of society to hide our feelings from others. We stifle tears and turn away so no one can see our face. We answer “I’m fine” when we’re really not.

I am amazed at how much this behavior is perpetuated by social media, TV, movies, self-help books and the like. We are told to stuff our feelings and certainly never to cry in public. This is seen as being weak or unstable which is a total lie. If anything, it is a sign of strength and balance.

God gave us our emotions and intuition as a guide to do what is right. Not only for others, but for our own self too. Let your feelings surface instead of holding them inside. And please allow others to let their feelings out as well. Don’t say to them ‘don’t cry, ‘it’s alright’ or ‘it’s okay’. Even touching them or handing them a tissue will stop emotions in their tracks, maybe, never to return. Allow their moment to finish and let them to come to you or to ask for what they need.

I have seen amazing results on my treatment table when clients have that ‘ah-ha’ moment or gradually let go of their old beliefs. You will be empowered with your new freedom from the bondage of keeping your emotions inside. Your body will feel less stressed and a sense of well-being will prevail in all you do.

If you need help, I provide John Barnes myofascial release, which is a safe, gentle hands-on therapy to help you release your stress and get in touch with those stuck feelings that may be preventing you from true healing from old wounds.

Letting Go – part 3

Alan Watts trust quote imageRosemont Therapy Image 1The layers of our life experiences are interconnected and pile on to one another in our subconscious, affecting us in our daily lives, some we don’t even notice, some we hang on to.

Imagine those experiences are like spaghetti on a plate reaching like little tentacles touching and affecting many others on the plate.  When one noodle is moved or disturbed, are many others disturbed?  Yes they are.

Now, in most cases we are able to get over our hurtful negative life experiences without help.  But, when those unhappy ones surprise us, like suddenly losing a relative, we can be left full of regrets.  Trying to resolve these with our thinking brain through logical reasoning can seem like resolution, but in reality we are being fooled by our own selves into believing that everything that needs to be let go of actually is.  We have recurring triggers in our daily lives and we mistakenly believe that we have come to terms with what is bothering us.

What then to do to access those feelings and achieve true letting go?  Faith is how.  We need a belief and trust that things will be better even though we can’t see it, touch it or “prove” it with facts.

I am not talking about a particular religious belief, but a belief in a higher power.  It is of no matter as to what or who the higher power is, although for me, I rely on Jesus Christ as my guide.  The concept of having faith is a constant in all religious beliefs and cultures and it is an integral part of being human.  The problem is we have been taught not to feel.  The evolution of this relatively new belief system of not relying on our faith and intuition has to be reversed.  Our well-being depends on it.

Faith is necessary because we cannot apply logical thinking to resolve our illogical feelings.  Have you ever tried to convey your feelings about someone or something to another person to no avail?  Can they really understand where you are and what you are feeling?  It is difficult at best and probably impossible, because you have your unique layers of life experiences and they have theirs.  Conversely, is it really possible for you to understand their feelings and experiences?

Letting go is up to the individual to go through on their own.  The “Serenity Prayer” helps point out how we, as individuals need to rely on a higher power and our own awareness to let go.  If you are not familiar with it, here is one version:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

Amen

This is why faith is such and important factor in our healing.  And if you really want to let go, forgiveness and not judging yourself and others is involved also.

As a John F. Barnes (JFB) trained myofascial release (MFR) therapist, I have first-hand experience in learning how to let go.  Being treated by an experienced JFB-MFR therapist allowed for new awareness to surface and combined with my Christian faith, gave me the ability to make huge steps in letting go of old beliefs.  It really is the ultimate mind/body therapy.